Actually, I’m pretty inlove right now but my friend wanted to know some ways to deal with this topic. Soooo. Lets do this! lol

• Before you blame yourself, get a reality check.
  
  Sometimes you might not realize that you’re that one thats been played over. There’s alot infront of you and depression may keep you from realizing anything. You wont but your friends will, before you ask for another chance, ask your friends what they saw happened between you two. What might have felt entirely your fault might have looked totally opposite to them. Maybe she/he was the one with the problems, did you think of that? Your friends did! Your awesome friends that got your back!
  
  
• Stop the flow of negative thoughts you send to yourself.
  
   You can easily think of reasons why it was your fault. Can you come up with evidence that it wasn’t yours only to blame? I know you can!
  Fill in teh blanks:
  He/she turned me down because of his/her own _______.
  If he/she werent so _______ he/she would have noticed that I’m ______.
  I am too good for him/her because ________.
  
  
• Let it go. 
  
   Things happen. Don’t beat yourself up. Nobody is perfect and you can;t please everybody. Try not to repeat history but don’t worry if you do. Be kinder and gentler to yourself because you need it most. Let go of self-blame. Its the only way to keep yourself from becoming negative. Smile! 
  
  
• Remind youself that rejection isn’t always personal.
  
   Maybe he or she wasnt really “the one” for you, or maybe you guys werent right for each other. Personalities collide especially interests. In a way it was you but think of it as “I finished it now so it wont be as hard in the future.” its not always personal, you were just incompatible. That way you won’t have to wait longer for “the one” :)
  
  
• Get out of the house and learn something new!
  
  Chilling is fine but if you’ve been chilling for too long its time to get out of that bed and go have some fun! Go out! Go to places you didn’t go to with your previous parter, you might even find another person worth your time and personality! Always look around to see intereseting people everywhere, you’ll see them eventually. Go to new places and flirt! Learning something new will give you less time to sulk around the house. It simply gives you less time to think about the bad times and learning something new is always fun if you’re into it ;). Focus your thoughts into it and let it absorb your attention. Maybe you have talents you didnt know or things you wanted to learn. Have fun!
  
  
  

I’m in love! <3

To be continued. 

• Look around you
  
   The world is filled with breath-taking funny moments that can be used to your advantage. Look around and find them. Did that cute girl you just saw stumble? Tell her “I didn’t know that someone like you would fall for me. ;)” What do you have to lose anyway? Nothing. Heck, you’d be even learning from it or maybe even get a friend or a special someone. :)
  
  
  
   
• And if he/she didn’t get the joke?
  
   It’s not your loss, It’s hers/his. It’s not that you’re not charming or funny, It’s just that, that person is humorless. You’d be better of without that kind of person anyway. You don’t have a reason to be sad about it. Laugh it off and move on! Think about it this way; The person who gets it, deserves it. Don’t settle for anything less. :D
  
  
  
    

(Angel Ruth Dizon, Michael Cuyugan)

To be continued.

• Joke! ;)
  Joking is easy when you’re arouns people with the same sense of humor but if not, Becareful because they might mistake your jokes as sarcasm or even anger. Make sure people realize you’re joking like with your facial expressions, like grinning :] , a wink ;D or raising an eyebrow to assure them that its okay to laugh.
  
  
• Laugh at yourself. Lol.
   Sometimes everything that happens to us are silly and you realized you were pathetically hilarious. And thats really good! They arent annoyances but they make us human and more easier to approach. Imagine you just sillpped on a wet floor, Then a person comes to help you out. Instant icebreaker. :P
  
  
• Use your “Prop” 
   Ex. That guitar you flail around, a basketball, Your stack of books that you hug while walking around school (for girls), Your dog! A banana piece lying around the floor. These are things that you can use to flirt with anybody. An icebreaker or a punchline. Use them! I knew a person once who was drinking a milkshake when suddenly there was this girl who walked in and his drink slipped out of his hands and covered his pants in chocolate. He said I never knew angels could do that. The girl laughed. Theres an endless list of props depends on how you use em. Goodluck! ;)

… To be continued.

• You should get nothing but encouragement.
• Don’t Let impatience get the upper hand.
• Be her friend but don’t communicate your interest until you’re ready for a relationship.
• Have a Clear Purpose.
• Don’t play with anyone’s heart.
• Learn each others values and goals.
• Ask alot of questions.
• Go on dates ;) 

On the moment you confess, romance isn’t the priority. It is not meant to be mushy. You need to tell her that through your friendship, you grown to respect her(better than any petty compliment). Do not play games with her, your confession must be clear so that there are no misunderstandings in the future. And of course give her time to answer haha. Intimacy shouldn’t out-space commitment meaning balance boundaries. Honor the protection of the girl (you can do that by seeking blessing from her parents. Which is the most bad ass thing a guy can do, Trust me.). And with clear intentions couples are free to spend time together. (guilt free ;D)

Be a man. don’t test the waters. Don’t even try to find out of she likes you too, It would be fair. I mean sino may gusto malaman na niligawan ka lang kasi alam nyang sure yes yung sagot? 

But the most important part in having a relationship with purpose. Don’t waste each other’s time at wag kayo maging “virus” sa isat isa, I mean what if lumala grades or sumama ugali nya dahil sayo, what would her parents think? That you suck and hindi karapat dapat. And think of what they’ll  think of her? Her image would be ruined. Real men don’t do that.

You might say: “Why? Can’t I just play with her? D:”
Do you really want another BS romantic relationship that ends badly? We have enough heartbreaks already. And someone always have to clean it up. Its not the easiest task in the world. And think about it, Is it a wise or caring way to treat someone?

Courtship has serious intent. It can be low pressure and casual in the beginning but as your relationship deepens it becomes more serious like from “I’d like to get to know you.” to “I’d like to marry you.” ;) But theres alot of space between those.

This is different how? Its not dating with JUST a different NAME. Courtship is a commitment. It is a promise to not play with each other’s hearts. Romance with wisdom.

…. To be continued.

Make Shyness a thing of the past.

             Shyness can be defines as an exaggerated fear of rejection or thinking of the “negative unknown” .

Here are some things that can help you get rid of it ;).

• Practice on someone who doesn’t matter. 
              Not everyone matters enough to panic or become shy. You can try flirting with friends or strangers you don’t actually like. Because shyness is situational meaning you only become shy if you have a desire to be intimate with the person. Rejection can also help you, you’re shy be cause you fear rejection and being used to that can help you talk to anyone. And as you begin to become Comfortable, you can enlarge your conversation circle to include those you find hard to talk to.
• Ask open-minded questions.
              By that I mean talk less listen more. You only need a friendly smile (smiles are very important its the cherry to every attractive person) and a handful of questions to keep a conversation going. Ask for more info! People like people that are interesting but. People love people who areinterested in them not by appearance but with whats inside or at least what he or she does. Do this and people will think you’re a fun person :)
• Have something to say.
              I am the kind of person that knows alot of useless info, but thats actually a good thing! Think about it people who know a little about everything are never at a loss for words (more and more opportunities to flirt ;D )and that keeps a conversation going but make sure you’re in a neutral and non-threatening topic. You might even draw out each other’s interest.
• To be at your best, Anticipate the worst!
              The worst case scenario that is. As I’ve said, shyness is fear of the unknown. Imagining your fears in teh most specific, detailed and unrealistic way can help you see how pathetic it is to even have feared. But limit it to thing you can cope with. 

 Personally I have tried everything that I write here but this is about confidence! You have to try it our for yourself to grow!

To be continued ;)

Boys and girls, Let me redefine flirting for you. The kind of flirting I know is a very contradicted version of the norm Flirting is bad, being malandi is bad, Ang malanding tao ay isang gagong manloloko. But flirting shouldn’t be like that or IS like that.

  Flirting is a charming and honest way of expressing interest, it is not manipulative or insincere. In my perspective hindi naman talaga flirting yung ginagawa ng mga tao ngayon para sa akin Trickery ang ginagawa nila kasi everything that is done na sa huli mawawala lang is useless, sure its a lesson but being tricked hurts right? 

Personally as a guy I don’t like seeing girls get hurt. Someone always has to clean it up, Mahirap din maging rebound it just sucks as being dumped or tricked because you’re just being used to fill in a space.

 I don’t know what I wanna make of this blog, I just know na I want to help people about love.

I’m also speaking for the good guys. Girls, If you didn’t know good guys do finish last and that happens because of flirts but good guys, know this: You are the prince charming every girl is waiting for. Good guys finish last because the last part of love is settling down and getting married for once being last has its rewards right?

Love is the best gift you can give actually even God himself has proven it.

Err… To be continued.